You Can!

It looks difficult but you know that if you wanted to you can reach your goal. 

Identify the steps you need to take in order to get there and then just do what you got to do!

I know 'doing' what we need to do can be a challenge we all face. Taking action on something that we have always thought was not our problem or was too difficult or too big of a dream to make come true makes us feel uncomfortable. For a start it isn't within our comfort zone so why would we want to put ourselves through unfamiliarity and possibly feelings of anxiousness.

But if you really want it and it is something you have thought hard about YOU CAN achieve it. Making the decision and stating your goal means you are clear and have a focus. There is no use in letting our limiting beliefs take over and ruin it for us. You control YOU. Now go do what you got to do!

Tip: 

1. Know your goal and make peace with it.It is what it is.

2. Think of all the steps that will help you reach your goal.

3. Now start walking! Take each step and give yourself some praise for doing it. It takes courage to do what you want/need to do. 

Your beautiful self!

Look at yourself in the mirror and see what I see. You are beautiful. Love yourself, be yourself and accept who you are. 

Is there something you don't like about yourself?  I say do whatever it is you need to do to be who you want to be! 

It sounds simple but being honest and authentic to ourselves can be one of the hardest things we have to consistently do. Once we open up to honesty about who we are and who we want to be we can then love the whole of our being and our beauty will radiate outwards to the rest of the world. 

Let us stop being blinded by our own illusion of who we say we are. We need to be it! If you are saying 'I am a good friend', 'I am a loving partner' or even 'I am beautiful' then be it!

This topic will always fascinate me. The reason being is because along with the topic of ‘love’ loving who I am and being authentic has been an epic journey. As I am sure it has been for you. You are probably thinking 'my beautiful self as opposed to...?' yes as opposed to 'your not so beautiful self'! For me 'my not so beautiful self' is when I am moody, irritable, snappy, fussy and negative. Now do not get me wrong each of these things would be ok if experienced individually but when they are in what I would describe as a 'combo' then I would hope to not be in the company of others...yes it is not a pretty sight! I know that this side of me could push others away, make me feel awful and create a problem that didn't need to exist.

For you, your 'not so beautiful self' maybe something else. Think about what it could be and how this makes you feel.

Questions to think about 
How does your 'not so beautiful self' serve your purpose in life? 

How do you make rational decisions when you are at your lowest? 

Now when I say 'learn to be your beautiful self' I am simply saying get to know yourself well enough so that you can tap in to the part of you that you and others love so much!
You were not born in to this world with limiting thoughts or beliefs about yourself. You created that! Everyone does. For some reason we find it easier to do this. We are in a culture where we think other people are beautiful, successful and special, when in fact...You are too! What we tend to do is feed our mind with constant labels, 'oh I am always clumsy', 'I'm not sexy', 'I am always going to be fat'. What is interesting about these labels is that the more you believe in them the more it will be part of your reality. So why not feed your mind with something more positive and what you want.

We are an interesting species who, on one hand should not take ourself too seriously but on the other hand there is a need to understand ourselves and be the powerful driving force in making positive transformations in our life. 

So although I like the idea of not taking myself too seriously (if you know me then you see this often enough) I know how important it is to 'get' who I am. However a lot of us don’t do this at all and we shrug ourself off a lot. The idea of thinking about ourself would seem ‘selfish’. The idea of being ‘selfish’ usually gives us a negative feeling and makes us feel bad. How absurd is that! I mean how will YOU know how to be of any use to anyone if YOU do not know who YOU are and understand why YOU do the things you do. 

So although being 'selfish' is frowned upon I know that thinking about your needs is fundamental in understanding the needs of others. 

See how you can contribute to your life and to the lives of others in a positive way by working on yourself.

Note to self: Get to know you, be an authentic you! Free you mind and see your true potential!

What you can do: 

1. Be honest with yourself. How would you describe yourself? Complete this sentence. I am...

2. Write a list of what you think are your strengths and weaknesses. 

3. Think about your attitude to your life. What contributions do you make in your life and to the lives of others? (you may want to put these in two columns: Positive and Negative) 

4. Now reflect: What insights are you getting about the person that you are? Could you change your attitude to situations around you? Could you finally let go of your hang ups?

What steps could you take to be your beautiful self today? 

What do you want?

"I want to do more!"

Do you find yourself feeling like you want to do more, be more and achieve more? Wanting to be more skillful or more of a “success” does have its benefits in that it motivates you to aim high, helps you to move forward and accomplish many things. But what could become a worry and hinder you reaching your true potential is the need for “wanting more” becoming an obsession. This obsession can sometimes make us lose sight of what is already in front of us. It can also take away what actually is more important to us.

Believe in yourself!

What we tend to do in the process of “wanting more” is a need to put ourselves down. We find it difficult to positively praise ourselves to others as we don't want to sound as what some people might describe as “cocky”. But maybe there is a way we can acknowledge and praise our achievements without the negative impact of being “cocky”. It's about us being more sincere with ourselves and saying it how it is as opposed to what we think may sound 'cool'. Know how far you have come and where you need to go.

Isn't it okay to acknowledge your hard work and feel proud of your achievements despite having not reached your main 'goal'? Being aware that you can do more and be better shouldn't have a negative impact on what you have already achieved and how you see yourself.

Having a clear intention on what you want is a good start but it may seem like a dream that will not manifest itself if there is no action placed behind for instance, your dream to be more sociable, find a partner, be a good parent, lose weight or be your own boss.

If you do know what you desire then make it clear to yourself on how to get there. We tend to blame not having enough time, money, energy, support as the reason for us not achieving our dreams. By placing blame on any of these things does this take away a sense of responsibility from ourselves? This is your life and no one but you can make it fabulous!