Embrace your inner light

Accept who you are, love yourself and embrace your beauty! If you are unhappy with an aspect of yourself, change that thought or change your actions!

Take time out and just be

Reflect, contemplate and accept what life has and hasn't given you. Find some time to be in a quiet space and away from distractions. Relax your mind and body and just be in that quiet moment. The more times you do this the easier it will be to tune into this state of being in any situation. 

Open your mind

You will see and believe in the possibilities you can have in your life by changing your perspective of yourself, of others and of the events in your life. 

It's all about You!

Learn to be you and learn to love you! 
Once we do this we can then take control over who we are, what we let in to our lives and what we achieve!

Step out of your comfort zone: See, feel and believe in your potential!

So a 3 year old child shows me he is afraid to balance on a log and in need of my help. I give him encouragement and hold his hand to keep his balance. I know that with practice he CAN and WILL balance on that log and achieve what he hadn't been able to do before. The child is simply afraid of feeling unsteady, possibly falling and hurting himself. 

Does this sound familiar? I know for certain as adults we still have these fears. Okay the fear may not be a log but the log has now become the fear of spiders, flying on a plane, going to an interview, changing careers, falling in love...you see my point. It is fear that hinders us in doing what we want or need to do.

We have all faced a time when we wanted to make a change and yet we were gripped by the fear of uncertainty or failure. We thought that changing anything in our stable, secure environment will be catastrophic and affect us and others in so many ways. We find ourselves feeling this fear despite the niggling thought we have of wanting to change something in our life. 

Fear hinders us from doing the things we want or getting what we need in life. Just because fear exists it doesn't mean that is how it will always be or how it should be. You have the ability to take control of the thoughts that are rattling around in your head. You can achieve that which you think (note to self: YOU THINK) is unachievable! Sometimes merely saying this will not be effective as we can always say "I am in control of my life" and yet we find ourselves 10 years later in the same position or mind frame that we are in now. 

How about taking action! Sometimes you have to stop thinking about it, take a leap of faith and just do it! Taking that first step will be the hardest but you will find yourself wondering why you hadn't for instance:

-      joined the gym

-      made new friends

-      gone back to school

-      changed career

-      took on a senior role

-      took that course

-      signed up to online dating

-      gone on a date

-      asked an important question

-      been honest

-      moved in with your partner/lived alone

-      moved country

-      become fitter/ate what you liked

-      given someone a compliment/taken a compliment

-      told others "I love you"

This list highlights the different types of fears we have and it goes on. Some of these can seem small to us but having "fears" is serious in that it can take up our time, damage our self-esteem and stop us from being happy. For instance, it can be easy for me to be open and upfront about who I am and what I need yet for some people I know this can be totally out of their comfort zone, making them over think, causing them great anxiety and stress. Before being able to take these leaps of faiths and ignore our fears we need to go back to working on our idea of ourselves, our self-image. 

Let us go back to the little boy balancing on the log. Without trying to step out of his comfort zone, stepping into the unknown and facing his fear he would not have realised how easy it was to balance on that log. As a teacher I see children with all sorts of fears and they are no different to what we still fear as adults. However children do not have as much past experience or “baggage” as we do and therefore with a little encouragement you'll see them fly! 

For us adults we have to unpick our own layers, understand what it is that stops us in our tracks, accept it and teach ourselves to believe that it no longer takes control over our life. Once we do this we can start adding ‘layers of confidence’ to our self in order to feel empowered and do whatever it is that we need in order to get to where we want to be in our life.

Note to self: Take control, be fearless and see how you can expand your perspective on life by knocking down those walls you have built and creating the life you need. 

Tip: List those things you want or need to do but that consume you with fear. Now put these in order of severity for you. Start with the more simple fears and slowly work your way towards conquering those bigger fears. 

How do you feel afterwards? Was it as bad as you thought it would be?

LIP - Love, Intimacy and Passion!

Happy Light Coaching's Thursday night thought

The key ingredients to that long lasting relationship. Speak openly, have an open mind, give up trying to be 'right' and all you need is a lot of LIP.

Love - A love that is free from guilt, burden and worry. A love that recognises their partner and appreciates them for the amazing person that they are!

Intimacy - Touch, be affectionate and have sex! These are just some aspects of real intimacy. Embrace each other, look into each others eyes and feel alive in that moment with your partner. Be intimate not only with your body but with your mind, heart and soul. This requires us to communicate and be honest with one another. Work, play, dance and laugh together! Find solutions together and know you do this with love.

Passion - Think it, feel it and now go show it! Be as passionate about your partner and relationship as you are about your hobbies, work or friends. Letting things slip can happen but don't let it be what you are left with. 

Note to self: You can create the relationship you want! 

A thought for today

Love can and should be projected in any area of our life. Once we know we have this power we will then be able to forgive quicker, treat others better, feel better about ourselves and enjoy the life we live!

I know the word "Love" sometimes makes us uneasy. 

However... 

NOTE TO SELF: our perception of love (which is based on our past experiences) is all that creates this uneasy feeling. Sometimes we have to not take them too seriously...we got to show them who's the boss and allow our heart and mind to open just that little bit more.