I am strong and fearless

I am fearless and strong! This doesn't mean I have to hide or suppress my vulnerability.

Although our vulnerability exposes us to the natural elements of life (things we have no control over) it provides us with the understanding of what we are capable of. It gets us to feel, to overcome and to experience life! This can empower us and get us doing things we thought we were incapable of doing and strengthen our character. 

When you come out the other end of being open with your feelings you will feel stronger. You will experience the feeling that no one can and will get you down. You will begin to stand taller, be in control and choose to not let anything or anyone get in your way. 

We are here, together, having an experience that sends us whirling around with a variety of emotions, feelings and behaviours. It is what it is..right? So just do what you got to do!

Love like there is no tomorrow!

Kiss with passion!

When you need a cuddle don't just wait for it go get it! 

When you need to talk to someone, talk! 

You need to vent? be my guest!

When you want to be alone, have some time to yourself! 

You want to cry? Don't just want (it's so uncomfortable feeling like there is a lump in your throat)...just cry...let it out. 

No one will love you any less. It doesn't mean you are less of a person, weaker than the average man/woman. It is a part of our existence, a part of life and EVERYBODY feels so don't let anything stop you! 

Just be.

Affirmation

HLC's affirmation for today: I choose love and unity. 

Affirmations are more powerful than we think! Not only does love and unity put a smile on our face, it can positively affect more than one person, lifts our spirits, gets us motivated and creates a better energy.

Let's start feeding our minds we positivity. Do not let anything get in the way of this. It is very simple but I understand how hard it can be if, up until now we have been doing the opposite.

Repetition certainly helps! 

Think love, speak of love, act with love and soon you will be all about love!

Find peace in your journey

Find peace in your journey...

Although our journey can be filled with much fun, joy and happy times with treasured memories filling our hearts with love, our journey can also include many challenges, changes and obstacles which may make us feel like we are living in fear, suffering, pain, uncertainty and a feeling of hopelessness. 

By acknowledging our journey and what it has and continues to hold for us in this present moment we can then accept it and move on. By being aware of the realities that surround us and respecting the highs and lows of life we can then focus on and train ourselves to find the peace in both good and bad times. 

Saying it how it is: Finding peace is a nice way of dealing with the 'crappy' stuff don't you think? Know that 's!?t' happens in life but we CAN choose to move on and hold on to something that feels much more pleasant even if it lasts for a moment. Hold on tight and keep adding goodness to it! Peace, love and light...

You Can!

It looks difficult but you know that if you wanted to you can reach your goal. 

Identify the steps you need to take in order to get there and then just do what you got to do!

I know 'doing' what we need to do can be a challenge we all face. Taking action on something that we have always thought was not our problem or was too difficult or too big of a dream to make come true makes us feel uncomfortable. For a start it isn't within our comfort zone so why would we want to put ourselves through unfamiliarity and possibly feelings of anxiousness.

But if you really want it and it is something you have thought hard about YOU CAN achieve it. Making the decision and stating your goal means you are clear and have a focus. There is no use in letting our limiting beliefs take over and ruin it for us. You control YOU. Now go do what you got to do!

Tip: 

1. Know your goal and make peace with it.It is what it is.

2. Think of all the steps that will help you reach your goal.

3. Now start walking! Take each step and give yourself some praise for doing it. It takes courage to do what you want/need to do. 

Unlock the door to personal excellence!

According to Confucius these are the three keys to unlocking the doors to personal excellence!
1. Have the will to win
2. Have the desire to succeed
3. The urge to reach your full potential

To obtain these keys HLC suggests:
1. We love what we want in order to have the will to win.
2. We believe that we can in order to have the desire to succeed (low self esteem and belief will just get in the way).
3. Questions: What does reaching your full potential look like to you? Write it down, say it aloud, visualise it and do it!

Relationships during the hard times

It is not easy...

• It is not easy being sincere when others have shown us the opposite of this.
• It is not easy letting go when we place importance and attachments to people or events in our life.
• It is not easy to change an image of our self because we think it is 'cool' but when it does not show who we really are.
• It is not easy to love unconditionally when we are taught that our love has conditions.
• It is not easy not being dramatic about it all. Because we seem to only listen to some degree when drama occurs. We learn to let things get out of control before we make them better.

How to make it easier
When there is an 'issue' in a relationship it is difficult to not see it as a 'you're wrong, I'm right' situation. If we all just acknowledged the role we have played in the situation and not be afraid to identify our own weaknesses this may not be such  big problem. Sometimes we won't understand what the problem is really about but a simple 'sorry' and loving gesture can change a persons mood. Sometimes we have to be the 'bigger man or woman'.

Letting go of ego and listening can do wonders for a loving relationship. If we allowed it, ego could get us to kill each other off. Loving others does not need to include suffering.

Top tips:
1. Care about the person who is speaking to you as opposed to being irritated by them. Everyone has a right to and should feel able to open up to someone they love.

2.Listen to the words that are spoken and then speak...less reacting just speak. Check out Active Listening.

3. Reflect and communicate with each other. Start being a team and stop undermining one another. Keep it to the point. Ultimately do not make accusations as we naturally become defensive. Instead start by asking questions or just begin talking about how you feel starting with...I felt, It sounded like... is probably better than You did this to me...You are a... etc

Lastly, for me an important ingredient to our magical potion of a loving relationship even in the hard times is...

4. Love - identify what this means to you and each other. Learn about what others think about love.  A great read is The Art of Loving by Eric Fromm. It could get you nodding and saying 'ah yes'.

Ultimately your objective is to make things better. How will you do this? Will you get all child like and make it about you? Sometimes we have to change the channel and stop playing the same tv show (our lives). Change perspective and actions in order to make things as good as we want them to be.

I know this is a tough one as what happens when the other person chooses not to take on an adult state or come from a place of love? (check out the role of ego states that play in our lives...it's an eye opener). Answering this is best for another post.

Much love to yourselves and those you have relationships with. Open your heart, let go of ego and love each other. 

Note: the advice above is not a quick fix especially if we are not used to behaving this way. As with everything having a good intention and practising the above will slowly guide us to more fulfillment in our relationships.

Let it go

We hear it all the time, I have written about it already and yet I feel it necessary to keep writing about it for myself and others.

Sometimes we do not even notice that we have been holding on to a lot of baggage from the past. So we get upset, angry and frustrated and wonder where this is coming from. Was it really the rude woman who pushed you on the platform? Is what your boyfriend saying really that bad? Why are you so upset? 

But...this is who I am
Yes! The way we behave is part of who we are. I am sure you have heard or even said yourself "Well that is just how I am". Of course it is but just because we choose to be angry, hurtful etc it doesn't mean that's how we should stay. We are choosing it to be who we are. We have other qualities that makes us US too. Think about the qualities you want to have to better your life and what it would mean to you and others if you chose love instead of hate. Yes it's bloody hard when we are pissed off and life has thrown some ridiculous obstacles in our way. But why don't we grow up and do what we gotta do to make our state of mind, life and relationships better. This advice is not rocket science yet it is so hard for us to take and implement in our lives. Let's do this peeps! Kick out those thoughts, events or behaviours you just do not want to have in your life. Cherish your space and what you put in it and give it more love and care. 

NOTE TO SELF: Acknowledge what happened and how you feel. Feel it. Now ask yourself: Is this how I want to feel everyday? 

If you choose to break free tell yourself that you are done with being angry, hateful, annoyed, frustrated and start visualising the essence of who you want to be. Close your eyes, breath and listen and feel yourself breathing. Feel your body relax and know that nothing can harm your state of mind because you are in charge. Love yourself, pour love into your being, think of loving moments and smile. Smile, smile, smile, smile, smile...

This exercise or any other relaxation technique should be repeated in order for you to feel relaxed and more balanced. When repeated it will begin to feel more natural to you and will become a part of you. Hopefully it will be something you can tap in to when things get a little too much and you forget how to let things go.