Reconnect with yourself...

Do you forget about who you really are?
Do you silence your truth for others?

If people, events and experiences change because you decided to remember and celebrate who you are and be and live your truth then so be it!

Your life is more fruitful, free and full of abundance when you are you! Be happy, spread your smile. When I see you smile and see the light you are connected to you remind me of it too. Then somehow, without no words we become connected, interconnected and create beautiful energy that can really change the world. Love is the only way, see it, nurture it and take care of yourselves using it.

An afternoon reminder...it is your choice.

Time to remember
No one makes you do anything you don't want to do.
You are in control.
You are the creator of your life.
Stop making excuses for what you are doing or not doing.
If you choose love, you make love.
If you smile, you choose this.
If you have a positive attitude,you choose this.
If you have a negative one, you choose this.
If you lie, you choose this.
If you cheat, you choose this.
No one makes you do these things.

You do it. So make choices that let you sleep at night, that bring a smile to your face, that make you happy and that show love and compassion to those you love.

When you moan more than you appreciate your life then its time to tell yourself some hard truths.

Live with love! If you don't know what this means to you then what a great opportunity to educate yourself in the art of being your loving self.

Client Time!

Meeting a client in a cool vibe!

One of the great things about coaching!
We can go on a coaching journey sitting in quiet places, busy places, walking and talking and when needed add a bit of play! ;)

London Love

Noticed a lot of love in London yesterday.

I saw romantic love, family love, friendship love, new love, old love, funny love, crazy love.

It was nice to see.
Because sometimes
we forget
we do not notice
But when we do
we appreciate the world more
the people in it
We remember
we are all born innocent
with love
Looking into a baby's eyes
will remind you of this
smile at them
they will smile back
How did we forget this?
What made our hearts so cold?
because LOVE
is not meant for one type of person
it is for everyone
already in everyone
in me
in you
So even if there isn't someone there
to stroke your face
dance in the rain with
grow old together
travel with
play with
Even if your heart has been closed
by fear
You are that love
touch your heart
close you eyes
breath
repeat the word
Love, love, love
Peace, peace, peace
Remember, breath
feel that connection
It is you
it is me
it is the universe
that is always moving with love
loving you
protecting you
It is there
Love is present...

Women who run with the wolves...

Women who run with the wolves...

By Clarissa Pinkola Estes

I have just started this recently but wanted to share it. The first few pages grabbed me.

"A healthy woman is much like a wolf: robust, chock-full, strong life force, life-giving, territorially aware, inventive, loyal, roving. Yet, separation from the wildish nature (the author defines this word in its original sense, which means to live a natural life one where the creature has innate integrity and healthy boundaries) causes a woman's personality to become meagre, thin, ghostly, spectral. We are not meant to be puny with frail hair and inability to leap up, inability to chase, to birth, to create a life. When women's lives are in stasis, or filled with ennui, it is always time for the wildish woman to emerge; it is time for the creating function of the psyche to flood the delta."

Through stories we reconnect and remind ourselves of who we really are and who we want and need to be.

Love the beauty in others

Don't be afraid to 'like' something from a beautiful, intelligent, strong minded, compassionate hearted, truth seeking woman speaking from her heart. 

...
Do not worry it will not belittle you and it shouldn't make you feel less of a human being. You are beautiful and full of love. When you truly believe that within yourself you will begin to see and accept that in others.
...
We all worry too much. Think too much and do not just accept each other enough.

Love people, L.O.V.E

What a lovely addiction I have...LOVE

Move towards joy!

Move towards joy!

Know that it is FINE to have this approach in life. Move towards those things that bring you happiness, love, smiles and laughter. These feelings are precious and do wanders for our entire well being. It can be forgotten by us in an instant when we continue to allow our conscious mind to feed us with the ifs and buts and the stories and the legacy's.

If you need an answer to what to do next and feeling a little stuck from something troubling your mind moving towards joy could be it!

This was a statement someone said to me at a time I needed guidance. I needed someone to just look me in the eye and tell me to move on, that all I could do now was find my joy. It may work for you too.

A reminder for my fellow teachers...

Enjoy your life. Live it!

This is dedicated to all my fellow teachers out there. 

It can be easy to forget that YOU matter too. You focus on others all day and having to take work home means it never really ends. You may find yourself at home feeling like you have been depleted of all your energy and feel like there isn't much space for anything else. 

Whatever you feel about teaching/working know that it is YOUR life. Life has many aspects to it, do not lose your focus on creating a life that, yes includes a career but most importantly includes happiness and good health. You know what will make you happy. Focus on that. 

Teaching duties will never end so you have to make it work for you. Make sure you set time to do other things you love. Live your life and make sure you do not sacrifice the happy, soulful individual that you are.

I have been there. Have a fabulous weekend!

Praise your achievements!

Praise your achievements! Do not doubt them.

You have made achievements and succeeded and yet you do not see this. Recognise them and acknowledge how far you have come. Once you have digested this go grab some more! 

Doubt will always try and take that sense of accomplishment from you. When it does tell it where to go and use the 'but I could still do this or that...' as inspiration to go do more.  

Reach for your own success

Reach for your own success everyday. Soon you won't be able to stop yourself!

Something great happens when you set yourself on your true path. You begin to crave for what you know works. Remember to look out for the small successes because they will lead you to the bigger ones. 

Praise!

'Praising others will not make you any less skillful,

beautiful or intelligent. Letting ego get in the way will 

limit you!

Spread some love'

Hanging with 'Me'!

When you have time to contemplate and free yourself from pressure, tiredness and stress you allow creativity to flow, ideas start to come to you and you realise that when you give yourself the love and attention it needs you gain more.

Hanging with 'Me' in London #1 and #2:

So the pics show breakfast for one in the wonderful Beyond Retro cafe in my home town Hackney, I then had a meeting in London Bridge and discovered a cool pink chair that had HLC written all over it. I walked down towards St Pauls, went to One New Change shopping center rooftop to meditate a little...ahhh London in the morning is great! 

...I had lunch at #Pho, love the food there. Walked towards the #tate and went into the free #banksidegallery. Went to #waterloo had a frozen yogurt from #snog (loved the van!) and came across what I can only describe as inspirational. 

It was a series of photographs by Carol Allen Storey of the Amahoro generation in #Rwanda who speak of the genocide. What was inspirational was that even those who have watched their own families die or even if their fathers were perpetrators of this violence, with the help of International Alert with their peace building project these young people have a new sense of hope and peace for the future. Amazing work! Go and see this!

This is an example of a better way...without this hope what might these young people be doing or thinking?

Make sure you take some time out! Have a great weekend!

Hope for another way

I hope we are always reminded of another way to live our lives. 

If we give in to social, work or family pressure then we can never create a better life. If we never speak up no one will know what is and isn't working. There is no need for any more silence. There is no need to just shrug our shoulders and tell others that is just the way. There can be and must be another way. Even though some things can seem certain and fixed when you see something to be unfair and against your own principles then have no fear, be true to yourself and say it how it is.

Believe in dreams

Believe in DREAMS
Even when something may seem out of this world why not dream about it? I would rather dream of beautiful possibilities that create a beautiful world for me and others than believe in other peoples fears of 'dreams being just that...dreams'. Settling for what you can only see limits you. Dreaming, visualising and creating a life you love has no limits.

Visualising your dream will guide you closer to them. One day you will look back and realise it all started with a beautiful dream you once had.

Hope

Hope is an invisible friend...

Lost hope? We have all heard of this and felt it, right? We especially feel this when we feel we have tried everything and nothing has changed. It may even be something that is happening around you such as poverty, war, death, illness, choices of others etc that you can not control but somehow are entangled in it. 

Although feeling hopeless is a natural feeling after trying our best and feeling like we are not getting anywhere, losing hope is like losing our will to continue. This can never be a good thing. No doubt it is hard to be human and manage complex emotions during difficult times. Sometimes life hits us with quite a few blows and we can get caught up in it. An awareness of 'self' may well help us to understand these situations, change our perspective on them and continue loving, hoping and living even despite the 'hopeless' situations we find ourselves in. 

Despite having plans, achieving goals and moving forward, hope will come in very handy when things get too much and changes arise without our consent. Hold on to hope during these times.

Hope is like an invisible friend holding our hand and telling

us something better is around the corner...it could even be telling us that life is and will be absolutely amazing. Hold on to hope.

Hopes and dreams

Hopes and dreams. 

They are yours and they are precious...just like you.  Do not allow others to sway you from your path, make you feel guilt or not respect what you want. 

Hope, dream and create the life you want. You can see it, you know what it means to you. No one can really understand what you want, know how important something could be for you. So live your life and no one else's. Let go of others judgement of what they perceive to be true. 

You are great. Your dreams are awesome and can never be taken from you. Something that is within your being can never be silenced, dissolved or changed. DREAM and DREAM BIG. You are that great and that important, I promise you. 

Peace and love.

All about 'heart'

I have been focusing on the topic of 'listening, trusting and following your heart'. This is very important to me and HLC is really all about the heart and finding our truth in the things we do. Although I do love our mind, it can get in the way of doing what we really want to do because we question everything many times, we allow fear and our limiting self-beliefs to judge us, ridicule our ideas and think it was a crazy idea in the first place. I have usually been told that it is our heart that can get in the way. I guess it depends on how you view your heart and its role in your life.

Understanding the role of both your mind and heart, knowing how it works, what makes them tick and identifying where the weakness may lie will get you using these two beauties better. For instance, training our mind to see things differently, gently opening our perspective on those things that make us uncomfortable (but that we want to experience) and be in control of our mind as oppose to it controlling us is fundamental in living our life without fear and constant anxiety.

I feel (and I guess this is personal to me) that many of life's matters can be solved using our heart. Yes there are some things which of course will require us to use our heads and rationalise the options. But ultimately we still make choices based on how we 'feel' about it. Call it your heart or intuition. This is the heart that I am talking about. Tapping in to this powerful tool will be useful in getting us to unchain ourselves from the experiences we don't like.

'Feeling' is underrated in our society.

It will always amaze me and I will keep going on about the fact that when you set an intention for yourself and follow your heart and those 'feelings' you have about your life you will start seeing things unfold in front of you the way you need and want them to. When you say 'I am positive, I know how to love, I know who I am' or you may be saying 'I have no idea what is going on', 'I do not trust people', 'I don't know what I want', ' I never find what I am looking for' etc if you take a step back you will notice that life will keep giving you what you expect it to. You will still be that person. You will still be doing that job. You will still be in that relationship. You will still get hurt by others. Nothing changes unless you do.If you like where you are then keep doing what you do. It goes both ways. 

Although we may have a positive intention for truth it may not give us sunshine and rainbows but it will lead us to OUR truth and the life that we need. It can be hard. It can throw some major curve balls at us but we will be stronger than ever, more clear and focused, living an honest life filled with the abundance that we need.

Life purpose = Being your true self

Day 5: Life purpose = Being your true self

When you are true to yourself and authentic you will uncover possibilities your mind was limited to see. This authenticity will be what guides you to live your life purpose and consequently get you loving your life (even with all it's struggles). One thing I am sure you will gain is FOCUS...the type of focus that you will appreciate having and not let anyone get in the way of! 

Life purpose = Loving your life

Day 4: Life purpose = Loving your life
When you live a life you love you are most probably living your life purpose. Yes, you may face challenges and struggle (this is of course, life) but despite these challenges you will know this is where you belong. Even within the chaos you will find that the journey you are on is the one for you. More than likely you may feel like it was something you had consciously chosen to fulfill as opposed to something you fell in to.

Find it, live it and love it! 

How will you live your life purpose?

Day 3: When you understand your role on this planet, life just gets better, you feel more powerful and your focus is clearer. This becomes a natural motivator for you to move forwards.

Write the answers to these questions down to get inspired by your true potential!

What is your purpose in LIFE?

How will you make sure you are living your life purpose?

What have you done/ will you do to invest in your life purpose? 

Hope this helps! ;)

Why have a life purpose?

Day 2: When we have 'purpose' or 'meaning' in our life we start being more focused and determined. 

For example, you go to work and have tasks you need to fulfil, right? Imagine you went to work and there were no tasks, goals or deadlines. 

What would you do? 
- Do something you like/want/need to do.
- Have a party.
- Be totally bored.
- Walk around the office chatting to people.
- Wonder what on earth you are doing there.

Whatever you choose you will try to find something purposeful or meaningful otherwise you may end up feeling like you’re wasting your time. Sure, you may get paid but can you honestly say you would be fine without the need to have a focus? What would be the point in just waiting to go home? Life will become pretty dull. 

Your life purpose: 

• Will give you a focus and be a motivator for you to move forward.
• Create new opportunities and possibilities.
• Positively change your outlook on life, yourself, others and the impact you can make on the world. Yes THINK BIG!
• Can potentially make you feel freer, happier and so much more fulfilled!

Not sure what yours is? 
- Write a list of things you love to do, those things that really touch your heart, sends adrenaline pumping around your body and makes you feel like ‘this is the life’.
- Have a look at your list, make connections to the points and summarise what they have in common.

Ultimately only you know what it is, it has always been there you just have to encourage it to show itself to you! 
Go live your life purpose and smile, laugh and have fun while you are doing it! 

Find your purpose and focus on it!

Day 1 Hold on to your 'purpose' or goal
We can find ourselves knowing our purpose and despite putting things into action we may well find that our progress can get slower and even become a little stagnant. This is life. This is the way the journey is. Do what you must now but keep your eye on your purpose because it is easy to let it go and just make do with what life throws at you. Encourage yourself to keep your eye on the bigger picture.

Listen, trust and follow your heart.

HLC's thought for today: Listening, trusting and following your heart as well as your intuition will lead you to a happier place. 

Living with heart and love and following this path is no weak business. It is hard, challenging and exposes us to outside elements. For instance even our family and friends who will have their own judgement about what they think we should do with our life. 

Following our hearts and/or what we call our gut instinct/intuition may require us to shift our perspective and get us out of our comfort zone. 

Through the process of listening to, trusting and following our heart we may well find our place in the world that is FREE from living in constant anxiety, wanting to be liked and battling between who we are, who we think we should be and who others want or expect us to be. 

Listen, trust and follow your own heart! You have the answers too, better still you have the answers that are right for you. Stop following someone else's.

Now watch yourself grow!

Follow your Happy Light

Lightness is something we feel when we are not run down, over worked, frustrated, angry about life or just plain bored. It is a euphoric feeling of gratitude, acceptance and just consciously living for today. We will face challenges, we may still feel frustrated and have an emotional day but we will know that we can then get back to our 'Happy Light' and find solutions, sleep on it and get on with creating and living an awesome life.

'Happy Light'
What HLC calls your 'Happy Light' is that spark of beauty, intelligence and love which is buried under all your fears, self limitations and masks you may have covered yourself with. 

Sometimes we have no idea where we are, where we belong and what we can do about it. We think we are happy and yet we sometimes see life going round in circles. We have allowed many things to affect us and although we want a way out we feel completely STUCK and powerless. But this is in our heads. We have that power to make a change and HLC can work with you to create a life you love.

Let us begin our journey to find our Happy Light!

Happiness! 
What makes you happy?
What does it look like to you? 
How does it make you feel when you are happy? 

If you were projecting your Happy Light towards me what would that look like to me? How would that make me feel and how would it make you feel knowing that I, for example felt great in your company?

Making happiness happen!
What are you doing to move towards those things that make you happy? If you are not, what is stopping you?

What are you going to do in order to follow your own Happy Light instead of following and making do with everyone else's?

Have a fabulous weekend!

HLC's Thought for Thursday

HLC is feeling some amazing universal love today!!!

• Believe in yourself and your business even when others doubt you.

• Kick ass (peacefully) even when things get rough. 
• Set goals and achieve them one goal at a time.

Perseverance is key!!

Can't see the bigger picture? It will all come. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Have a lovely day!

Projecting this awesome feeling of love and lightness from us to you...can you feel it?

Keep moving forward

Thought for today: Keep moving forward

Sometimes we have so much energy and nothing can stop us from moving forward. We are excited about our new projects, relationships and experiences. When this happens we may feel inspired, lighter and happier then ever and we may find that we move in an effortless motion. 

Today I ask you to hold on to that positive energy even when faced with challenging times. Because we may have a set back, we may lose sight on what we are doing and our new experiences may be causing us some strain. We need to make sure we keep our focus on our goal and follow things through. This will be the test of how much we can achieve. This is when you will see and recognise your true potential! If something fails, pick yourself up and move forward. It doesn't matter how big a step you take as long as you are taking those steps. 

Have a productive and inspiring day! Move those projects along, help others feel empowered to make work a success and form positive connections with each other!

Open your heart and learn to love

Open your heart and learn to love

Love, love, love...If you feel it you know why we go on about it so much!

Although we hear about it, talk about finding it, dream about it and just love the idea of it we sometimes misunderstand what LOVE really is.

Some questions to ponder on:
What does love mean to you?
What does love look like to you?
How many people have you loved? What role did they play in your life?
How did you love again after a break up?
How can we show our man/woman real love?
How can we use love to create a better world?

Open your heart,
Love and forgive yourself and others.

Have a loving evening!

HLC Positive Affirmation Week: Saturday

Saturday Affirmation: I embrace my true potential

Now it is the weekend take some time to praise your strengths, achievements and successes. Do not be afraid to look at yourself in a positive light, accept your beauty and embrace your true potential. You have so much to give and you may not even know it yet. You see it sometimes and you suppress it. You may not see it. You may not even feel it. But I assure you it is there. We are interesting beings and if we wanted to, are capable of having many breakthroughs and realisations which will move us in the right direction. Do not be afraid to shine, I want to see you shine. Shine as bright as you can and do not be afraid of judgement. 

Walking the path of our 'true calling' will not be plain sailing. It will have its ups and downs. We may have to face struggle and suffering because to make way for a new path we may need to change many things about our life.

Relationships, careers, routines, behaviours and priorities may have to change. We may lose people along the way but be reassured that you will gain so many more. When you walk this path and you do so with positive action and belief in it you will attract the energy you will be giving out. You will begin to meet people you have always wanted to connect with and who will help you on your journey. You will begin creating so much more abundance in your life and feel more at home and you will know you did this just by learning about who you are, what you really want from life and accepting Yourself. 

Embrace your true potential, it is there, it will always be there waiting for you to make life not just great but out of this world! Dream big!

HLC Positive Affirmation Week: Friday

HLC Friday Affirmation: I have no fear

"FEAR - False Evidence Appearing Real"

When I first came across this I was like 'oh yeh!'.

How much of what we fear is actually something that is occurring NOW?

Even if I was about to have an operation how much of the 'fear' that I would be experiencing be real?

For example, I may fear I will not wake up ever again, that my operation will go wrong etc. Is that what is happening to me while I lay down for my operation...am I dying, is it already going wrong?

Don't get me wrong Fear happens, it is a familiar feeling we have had since we can remember. When something seems a little alien to us and unfamiliar fear can kick in.

But let us reflect...

How much of this fear do we actually need?

And

How much of it should we feed ourselves with?

The simple truth: We can not control the outcome of many things but we can be in control of how we think, see and respond to these 'things' that we fear.

So today I recognise that fear can limit me in to thinking negatively and ultimately make me less productive...so I affirm that I have no fear!!!

Think about what you fear, acknowledge it and let it dissolve as you state this affirmation.

Have a fearless day beautiful people!

HLC Positive Affirmation Week: Thursday

Thursday Affirmation: I deal with change well and move on.

Having the flexibility and strength to move on is a great attribute to have as life is ever changing. Although aspects of our life can seem uncertain we can maintain some certainty if we wanted to. Having said that we need to learn how to adapt to change when the need arises. 

Sometimes it will be harder then other times and those will be the biggest tests. But although it can seem like such an enormous task you will come out the other end stronger and wiser. 

Check back at my previous blog posts on Letting go and moving on: http://happylightcoaching.blogspot.co.uk/2014/03/letting-go-and-moving-on.html

HLC Positive Affirmation Week: Wednesday

Wednesday Affirmation:  I am free from worry, doubt and uncertainty.

This is a special affirmation for me. Although these words are familiar to all of us this statement has a sentimental value to me. It is one of my favourites and one that I needed 12 years ago. Most importantly for me, my dad was the one who gave me these words in my time of need. Repeating this daily helped my state of mind and gave me a focus. This is the power of positive affirmations.

Note: The intention of this affirmation is not to make you think that worrying, doubting or being uncertain is 'wrong' or 'bad'. These are natural for us to feel and experience and are needed just like all our other emotions. It is intended to ease some pain and possibly transform a habit. 

If these emotions crop up from habit (you will know if this is a habit or not...it was for me) and is not helping us get on with 'life' then we can try to put aside our worries, doubts and uncertainty and begin affirming the freedom we feel from these worries instead. 

HLC Positive Affirmation Week: Tuesday

Tuesday Affirmation: I respond with love, patience and compassion.

Yesterday the affirmation was I am my own success. Today I am sharing with you an affirmation that helps me be my own success. 

We all have our own version of what success is and what this means to us. We also have many successes! This is a good reason why we shouldn't worry about putting ourselves down for 'failing', comparing ourselves to others, beat ourselves up about not doing this or that or get ahead of ourselves. Focus on what YOU want and achieve it by setting goals now. You are a success the moment you begin putting things in to action. 

A thought from me: I feel 'successful' when love, patience and compassion is part of my natural behaviour and when I respond this way in difficult circumstances.

Have a lovely day full of love, patience and compassion!

HLC Positive Affirmation Week

Monday Affirmation

I am my own success!

What does it mean to you, to be a success? 

What will you do to be that success? 

What does success look like to you? 

What will it feel like? 

Stop staring at the door! Open it!

Stop staring at the door! Open it!!!

Have you found yourself thinking, contemplating and dreaming about the same thing over and over again? Year after year?

Have you had the same goals hovering over your head and one day you find that life just took over and you didn't achieve them?

How long have you been doing this?

Although dreaming gets us inspired and helps us to think BIG. It can also limit us if we do not take action to achieve them. We will just dream, dream, dream and do more dreaming until it becomes a place of comfort. It will become a place we just get used to. We end up not taking action because 'it's only just a dream' or 'we just do not have time'.This then becomes our excuse, thinking that our dream is not something we can move towards and achieve.

There may be a door (a new possibility) in front of you that you have been staring at, curious about and sometimes desperate to open. You will not know what will be on the other side if you do not try and open it.

You may be pleasantly surprised by what you find!

Look in the mirror...What do you see?

Look in the mirror... 

What do you see? 

What else would you like to see? 

Now be it!

NOTE: This does not need to mean what you literally see (i.e your looks).

How you can make this work for you!

1. Look in the mirror (or just think about yourself whatever is more comfortable) and answer this question.
What do you see? 
Allow the thoughts and feelings to come with this exercise and acknowledge their existence. 

2. Think about your desires and needs and what else you want to see within yourself. What are they? Make a list. 

3. If we know what we see and we know what we would like to see then what could be the next step? 

We see it, we think it then why not just be it! What is the worse that could happen? 

Feel uncomfortable? 
Sometimes we may like to add something to our already lovely selves but it can feel unnatural and strange to follow through. It sounds great in our head but somehow in reality we do not see it as us. 

What you can do!
Determine whether this is actually what you want to be like and see within yourself or is it something you think is 'cool' and/or expected of you? 

Once you figure this out and you know what you want or need to do then the doing bit will probably be much easier to accomplish.

Go shine your light!